1:1 Relationship work with Bella
Understand what’s happening.
Find what you can change.
Move forward.
Bella Tanzer · Relationship Coach & Accredited Counsellor
Sometimes you know something in your relationship needs to change – but you’re not quite sure where to start.
- Maybe you’ve tried talking about it, only to end up having the same conversation again.
- Maybe you’re overthinking the relationship, feeling disconnected or wondering why you keep getting caught in the same patterns.
- Maybe you’re the one thinking about the relationship, reading about it and trying to talk about it – while your partner seems much less concerned.
- Or perhaps you simply want to understand yourself better and become healthier and more confident in the way you relate.
You may have found yourself thinking:
- “Why does this keep happening?”
- “Why do I react like this?”
- “Am I asking for too much?”
- “Why won’t they talk to me?”
- “Can anything change if I’m the only one willing to work on it?”
You don’t need to know the answers before you come.
That’s what our work can help you discover.
“My relationship has drastically improved.”
“Working with Bella helped identify the real root causes of my issues and together we began to work on navigating through these and questioning the negative stories I was telling myself. I feel free, hopeful and positive about my future and my relationship has drastically improved. I feel very fortunate to have had Bella as my guide through such an important process.”
We start with what’s actually happening
You don’t need to arrive with a neat explanation of the problem.
You might have a very clear idea of what’s wrong. Or you might simply know that something isn’t working.
We’ll slow things down and look together.
- What’s happening between you?
- What happens inside you?
- What keeps repeating?
- What have you already tried?
- What do you wish were different?
- And what might actually be possible from here?
The aim isn’t to decide who’s right and who’s wrong. It’s to understand what’s happening well enough that you can begin to see where change might be possible.
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Your starting point
The Relationship Roadmap
One focused 50-minute conversation · Personalised Roadmap PDF · £48 · Online
Every new client starts here. You don’t need to know what kind of support you need or commit to months of work.
We’ll use our first conversation to step back from the situation together. We’ll look at what’s happening, what you’d like to be different, what patterns may be keeping you stuck and where you may have some influence.
Then, after our session, I’ll create your personalised Relationship Roadmap PDF.
Your Roadmap will bring together:
- WHERE I AM NOW: What’s happening and what feels difficult.
- WHERE I’D LIKE TO GO: What you’d love to experience differently.
- THE PATTERN I NOTICE: The repeating interaction that’s keeping you stuck.
- WHAT MIGHT BE HAPPENING UNDERNEATH: What’s happening for you – and what might be happening for your partner.
- WHERE I HAVE INFLUENCE: The point where you may be able to do something differently.
- MY FIRST EXPERIMENT: One small, practical thing to try.
- WHAT I’LL NOTICE: What happens when you begin changing your part of the pattern.
The Roadmap is yours to keep and use.
“It has also made a difference to my husband.”
“Bella has given me the tools to understand and to help me navigate my own thoughts when things get tough. Through this, it has also made a difference to my husband, and the way in which we communicate with each other has improved greatly.”
Where might your Roadmap take us?
Everyone starts with a Roadmap because I don’t want to decide what you need before I’ve listened to you. Depending on what we discover, our work might explore:
Attachment & emotional security Understanding what happens when closeness feels uncertain or threatened.
Boundaries & needs Becoming clearer about what you need and learning to express it.
Confidence & sense of self Finding your voice and becoming more secure in who you are.
Connection & intimacy Understanding distance, affection, desire and emotional connection.
Neurodiversity & relationships Understanding how different ways of experiencing and processing the world affect your relationship.
Parenting & family pressures Looking at what happens to your relationship when family life consumes your attention.
Your own story Exploring how earlier relationships and experiences may still influence the way you relate today.
The Roadmap is yours to keep and use.
You may decide that’s enough to get you started. Or you may decide you’d like some support putting it into practice. There is no obligation to continue.
Then, after our session, I’ll create your personalised Relationship Roadmap PDF.
“She helped me so I could help myself.”
“She really listened to me, showed empathy and patience, and let me take time to uncover and understand my feelings.”
